Two of My 10 Simple Lessons in Self-Defense for Girls
In the following 10 lessons, I will touch upon these primary topics:
- Self-Image (and the media)
- Relationships, Dating, and Boys
- Dangerous and Emergency Situations
- Alcohol and Drugs
- Environmental Self-Defense
- Sexism / Discrimination
Lesson 1. Attitude
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
–Charles R. Swindoll (American Writer)
One of my favorite youtube videos about attitude comes from the Buddhist Monk, Pema Chodron, it’s called Troublemakers. It’s about looking at people who bother you –from a very different --and healthy --perspective. It’s about your attitude about people who trouble you.
It’s not unreasonable to think that about 90% of all things that trouble us come from the way WE look at things. For this reason attitude is our first –and perhaps most important – self-defense lesson.
Now here you’ll find a great lesson from a very famous teacher, a motivational speaker and business consultant named Zig Ziglar. He takes 10 minutes in this video to tell a story, about attitude, that I think everyone ought to hear at least once in their lives.
Lesson 2. Exercise
There are 168 hours in every week. Your exercise program is going to take 7 of those hours, give or take, and chances are that those 7 hours will give you more health, more positive feelings, and a better quality of life than just about anything else that takes place in the remaining 161.
Exercise helps you:
avoid some pretty nasty diseases and ailments
control your appetite and weight
forge new friendships
And let’s revisit nasty diseases:
Inactivity has a lot of unhealthy implications for our bodies –on a cellular level. At the cellular level, inactivity decreases the ability to transfer oxygen from your blood stream to your cells, and also decreases the number of power activating mitochondria. However, the worst cost of not exercising or being physically inactive can result in the following 10 devastating conditions:
1. CANCER - Studies have shown that fitness enthusiastic men and women who are physically active have a 30 to 40 percent lower risk of colon cancer compared to individuals who are inactive.
2. DIABETES - Studies show lack of regular physical exercise increases insulin sensitivity. Diabetes is considered the “sedentary disease” which is striking people at an alarming rate. If it is not controlled, it can destroy the body’s organs.
3. HEART - Lack of consistent physical activity, over time, decreases the function of the heart muscle, affects the blood vessels, including the large aortic artery to the veins and small capillaries. According to many studies, scientists have good reason to believe that regular exercise protects the heart.
4. STROKE - Regular exercisers are 25% less likely to have a stroke than their sedentary counterparts. Being fit lowers blood pressure, raises HDL cholesterol, and reduces the risk of blood clots.
5. BRAIN “Issues” - People who are physically active, according to solid evidence, are at lower risk for cognitive decline and dementia.
6. MUSCLES LOSS - If you don’t exercise on a regular basis, you are at risk of losing some 6 percent of your muscles mass every decade of life from the age of 30 on. This also translates into a 10 - 15 percent loss of strength per decade. Once again, if you don’t use the muscle, you will lose the muscle quickly.
7. OSTEOPOROSIS - Fragile bones cause more than 1.5 million fractures each year in the U.S. Bone is like muscle, if you stress it, it responds. If you don’t, you gradually lose its strength, and increase your chances of breaking them. Regular weekly strength training can help prevent osteoporosis, and decrease your chances of breaking a bone.
8. POOR MENTAL HEALTH - People who don’t exercise on a regular basis are more prone to develop depression. According to a recent study, people who were more active were nearly 20 percent less likely to be diagnosed with depression over the next five years than less active people. Fitness conscious individuals also generally display an improved self esteem, or self image.
9. EXCESSIVE WEIGHT - If you are inactive, year in and year out, you will eventually gain weight and lose fitness which increases the chance of a heart attacks, and diabetes.
10. COMPROMISED IMMUNE SYSTEM - Moderate amounts of exercise reduces the risk of upper respiratory infection. Regular exercise may boost immune function.